Saturday, April 08, 2006

The Jacqueline Gillespie case. Hero or Villain?

The recent Jacqueline Gillespie case has interested me a lot. For those who have not heard of it, Jacqueline Gillespie is an Australian mother that had her 2 children taken from her, illegally from the perspective of Australian law, and legal from the perspective of Malaysian law. This is because her husband, the cousin of the current Terengganu Sultan, remarried and she immediatly took her kids to Australia and divorced him. Readers, what say you all?

Side 1 - Jacqueline Gillespie is a villain

She is of course talking about Raja Bahrin, cousin to the present Sultan of Terengganu. What happened was, Raja Bahrin married a second wife and Jacqueline Gillespie ran off to Australia taking the children with her. At first Raja Bahrin would not allow her to take the children with her but she bluffed him that her mother was very sick and dying so, out of compassion, Raja Bahrin agreed.

I, in fact, met her at Subang Airport the day she left for Australia and she was sobbing as she told me the story. She also said she had no money so I gave her what little I had on me. Little did I realise she had cleaned out her bank account and was quite loaded.

Once she reached Australia she filed for a divorce and brought the children to church to be baptised. Jacqueline told the court that she badly treated, beaten every day, and was practically a slave back in Malaysia; so she dared not return to Malaysia to file for a divorce, as she should have done since she was married in Malaysia under Malaysian law and according to Islamic rites. This was definitely not true. Tengku Ampuan Bariah, the late Sultan’s consort, loved Jacqueline like her own daughter (because she had no children of her own) and Jacqueline went about the palace like she was born a princess.

Raja Bahrin then filed for custody of the children but lost. Raja Bahrin’s Australian lawyer did not think they were going to win as, what he said, “Two of the three judges are Jews so, as a Muslim, you have very little chance in this courtroom.” By the way, the lawyer who said this is not Muslim but Christian.

The court then gave Raja Bahrin visiting rights a couple of times a year. However, every time he wanted to visit the children, his passport and air ticket would be impounded. He would also be searched and all his cash plus watch and other valuable would be confiscated. Further to that, there would be two guards who would stand watch the entire hour or so he spent with the children and Raja Bahrin was not allowed to touch the children or have any physical contact with them whatsoever. He was also not allowed to talk about Islam to the children.

After a few years, the rules were relaxed as the authorities felt that Raja Bahrin had been behaving himself all those years. Nevertheless, the no cash or valuables and impounded passport and air ticket ruling remained. But he was allowed to spend some time alone with the children as long as they were sent back at the end of the day in exchange for his passport and air ticket.

Raja Bahrin could take it no longer. One day, leaving his passport and air ticket behind, he took the children for a long drive to the coast and jumped onto a boat that had been prior-arranged for the ‘great escape’. In the middle of the high seas, the boat developed engine trouble and it drifted for many days until it was rescued by the Indonesian Navy and towed to safety. It was sheer luck Raja Bahrin and the kids did not bump into any pirates or got swept under in a storm. The Indonesian Navy personnel told Raja Bahrin that, one day late, and they would have been history because his boat was drifting towards cannibal-infested territory (it is surprising that such things still exist in this day and age).

Raja Bahrin’s and Jacqueline Gillespie’s story is certainly a tragedy but the way Farah related it paints him as a villain. I know both husband and wife very well and it pains me to see this happen. After they divorced, I met Jacqueline in one of my trips to Australia and we do still communicate via e-mail from time to time. But to say it serves Raja Bahrin right for marrying two wives would be as fair as saying it serves Anwar Ibrahim right for getting beaten up and jailed on sodomy charges because he refused to bail out Dr Mahathir’s son’s shipping company with Petronas’ money.

Anyway, the point to all this, Farah’s piece on royals and polygamy plus references to Raja Bahrin has not been presented in the right perspective. In any story, there is always the other side of the coin and all may not be what it seems. And as much as you may want to think poorly of the late Sultan of Selangor for marrying a young wife after the Tengku Ampuan died, there were hidden hands paying the role of matchmaker with the objective of controlling the institution of the palace.

Excerpt from malaysiakini.com

Jacqueline Gillespie - Hero

"Once I was a Princess" is a book about how a woman's determination to continue to fight for her two kidnapped children's basic human rights saw her redefine her identity and role in society from distraught mother to a humanitarian activist on the world stage.

Jacqueline Pascarl Gillespie who joined us on Saturday's show was racially and sexually abused as a child. Her dysfunctional childhood left her vulnerable to the heady proposition of being swept of her feet by a seemingly gentle and urbane foreign student, Prince Raja Bahrin. They moved to Malaysia where they married and Jacqueline was re-educated and moulded in the disciplines of a princess and an obedient Muslim wife.

Back in his own country it bore no resemblance to the quiet student of their whirlwind courtship and she was treated by her husband as little more than a brood mare and decorative appendage. Forced to suppress her intellect and endure physical brutality, Princess Yasmin, as she was now known, maintained a carefully constructed facade of aristocratic solidarity. In just four years, a fairytale romance begun in the soft Melbourne spring of 1980 had turned into a nightmare of Islamic superstition, isolation, rejection, betrayal and abuse.

The birth of her two children steeled her resolve and determination to raise them far from the rotten atmosphere where she was living. Following the disintegration of her marriage (her husband had bigamously married a night club singer) she returned to Australia with the children and built up a career for herself in TV and radio.

After seven years of freedom her life took another turn in 1992. Her vengeful husband abducted both children in a cloak and dagger operation and managed to flee the country by sailing from Queensland to Indonesia in a tiny motor cruiser. Since then and despite diplomatic lobbying, legal challenges and humble pleas, Jacqueline has been allowed no contact with her kidnapped children, Iddin who is 16 and Shahirah, 14.

Succumbing to grief was never an option for Jacqueline. Instead she focused on providing support for other parents in similar circumstances and is now an acknowledged international expert on parental child abduction. She has emerged from her ordeal a stronger and more independent woman, forging a place for herself with humanitarian aid work in Bosnia and Africa.

The publication of her book "Once I was a Princess" coincides with this month's European conference on parental child abduction organized by the London based charity Reunite.


excerpt number 2:

9.39 In 1992, Mrs Jacqueline Gillespie's two children were abducted from Australia in defiance of an Australian Family Court custody order. The children's father smuggled the children out of Australia on a small boat back to Malaysia.

9.40 Malaysia is not a party to The Hague Convention on the Civil Aspects of International Child Abduction. Therefore, the Convention could not be used to return the children to Australia on the grounds of their habitual residence in Australia.

9.41 Both children have dual nationality. They obtained Malaysian nationality by birth and acquired Australian nationality by descent from their Australian mother on registration at the Australian High Commission in Kuala Lumpur.

9.42 The children's father had obtained custody orders from the Islamic religious court in his home state in Malaysia before coming to Australia to abduct the children. Under the Malaysian law, the father had legal custody of the children. It was open to Mrs Gillespie to challenge the custody orders in the Malaysian courts, but she decided not to proceed. Lawyers for the Australian High Commission advised that such a challenge would have been a test case for Malaysian law on the question of whether the civil or the religious courts have jurisdiction in custody cases involving religiously mixed marriages. The Australian Government, through the Attorney-General's Department, offered Mrs Gillespie financial assistance so that she could obtain legal advice in Malaysia on the prospects of legal action in the Malaysian courts to obtain the return of the children.

9.43 Because the children are Malaysian citizens and living with their father, the Australian High Commission had no legal grounds to request access to the children to determine their welfare. However information about the children gained by the High Commission has been relayed to Mrs Gillespie through DFAT.

9.44 The Australian Government requested the extradition of the children's father to face charges in Australia relating to his breach of the Family Court orders. The Malaysian Government refused that request, on the grounds that his action did not constitute a crime in Malaysian law. As noted in paragraph 6.129, 'the 'dual criminality test' is standard procedure in extradition cases.

9.45 DFAT submitted that this case illustrated how different legal systems can give different verdicts in custody cases and the importance of The Hague Convention to enable return of children to their normal place of residence. It further illustrates the Government's inability to intervene in private legal disputes and where dual nationality is involved.[20]

from the australian government website

This case has had many films and books written about it. What do you think?

17 comments:

Henry Yeo said...

Too many viewpoints, not enough clear delineation between the different parties (some would say that this is equivalent to the charles vs diane clash)

Anonymous said...

I suppose I am flabbergasted to see that people actually comment so wrongly and intrusively about the lives of my family. One comment on this website states that I had 'cleared out my bank account and that I was loaded". This is completely incorrect. I did not have a back account during my time in Terengganu - I was not allowed. Another legally incorrect statement is that my former husband was not allowed any physical contact with his own children and that armed guards stood watch during access visits! This is another outright lie! Raja Bahrin had overnight hotel stays with our children on his own and I even drove him around town on several occassions to help him out! Also, it was my grandmother who had a stroke and fallen down a flight of stairs - she was hospitalised at the Alfred HOsptial in Melbourne and was very badly injured. Why do people feel the need to propograte a lie and why is it their own egos that make them feel that must assert some made up personal knowledge about my family for their own gratification?

Anonymous said...

That first argument was completely and utterly incorrect

For a start, Jacqueline never claimed that her mother was ill; in fact, her Grandmother had fallen downstairs and suffered a stroke

Also, Bahrin had plenty of contact with his children whenever he desired, only he didn't desire very often. When the time did come for him to see them, both children protested vehemently, especially Shahirah, as he would blatantly treat her as a lower life form than her brother

Jacqueline's actions were beyond brave, and she did her absolute best under the circumstances to protect herself and her family, and for anyone else to argue that she is, in fact, a villain is either severely under educated or else unwilling to believe that a royal personage like Bahrin could possibly have such different personalities.

I have recently read 'Once I was a Princess' and, as a psychologist, it is clear to see that Jacqueline's experiences and reactions were 100% realistic, and it is a tribute to her character that she handled her situation the way that she did.

Anonymous said...

I have just finished reading 'Once I was a princess'...the tale deeply saddened me like no other I have heard before! The most incredible thing was Jaqueline's determination and love for her children not to give up, and the most frustrating was that of the australian government. Whilst reading of their mistakes and bad judgments I felt like screaming...my heart goes out to a mother who was robbed of her childrens upbringing by a man who only wanted control! It pleased me to hear that they have been in contact and reunited and I wish them all the best in being a family once again!

Anonymous said...

i think bahrin should go to hell and rot there. just because shes a woman dos not mean he can treat her like that i believe in womans rights.Jacqualine Gilespie is a hero and a role model for women

Lillian said...

The Raja Bahrin Story: A father's dramatic rescue mission

Authors: Raja Bahrin Shah & Bryan Wickham
Paperback: 273 Pages
Publisher: Times Book International (1997)
Language: English
ISBN-10: 981204731X
ISBN-13: 978-9812047311

Anonymous said...

Australians simplify labelled Raja Bahrin as a 'Prince' which had no currency in Malaysia. Royal in Malaysia not like the British Royal Family. There are 9 Sultans in Malaysia and these Sultans produced thousands of 'Prince' and 'Princesses'. It is not uncommon to find someone with royalty name 'Raja' or 'Tengku' work in labour or elsewhere in Malaysia.
Besides Raja Bahrin worked as an architect and did not live in a Palace.
Certainly Australians misunderstood about this case regarding a word 'Prince'.

Anonymous said...

please can anyone tell me where i can find the article that was posted about jacqueline gillespie not too long ago. i have been informed that it was in the West Australian. ?

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Anonymous said...

I am a muslim too, but I do not believe that Raja Bahrin has done right by his wife or children. It is so wrong and against our religion to force any non-muslim into converting and also to kidnap their children. We try to show how kind and considerate we are, but people as wrong as Raja Bahrin show our religion to be so wrong, this is why we are not liked so much. Shame shame shame on him, especially being a royal blood and swearing so many times on the Koran that he will not do the things he has done. Us women are usually forced to make our husbands happy (without a thought to our feelings) and belittled by them. We are forced to wear veils to cover ourselves, whilst our men go out and hunt for flesh. Even being a devout muslim, I am so against his way of treatment. Our men lost diginity for themselves such a long time ago. Who brought them into this world...a woman... who has to take care of them as they cannot do this themselves....a woman. So why treat us the way they do and be honoured for this? I think as so many women from my family that Jacqueline was so right to take her children away from there to have a decent life. Why would the original writer of this article write such a one sided story to make Bahrin sound like soem kind of hero and lie that she knows them very well. If she knew them well, she would not make up so many lies. I also come back 10 years ago from a similar situation from a marriage in Malaysia, but not publicised it. Good on Jacqueline for being brave to do this. I wish I could have brought my children back, but the authorities argued that men can physically, verbally, emotionally and mentally torture their wives and they will still be on the right side of the law. This proved difficlt for me to bring my children with me. My husband murdered our daughter and tried to kill me too. But my sons were favoured to stay with him, while I escaped with my life. And poeple say he's right to do this to a woman. How disgraceful. Aisha Ali.. Bahrain.

Anonymous said...

i can't believe people can be so stupid to stand up for a guy who turned the life of his wife into a living hell. You make it seem like another 'islam VS christianity & judaïsm' fight while it's not about this AT ALL. What are you defending him for? People like him don't deserve pity. But he's smart enough to make YOU believe his story.

you're sensless and i guess you have no more respect for women or other living individuals like your beloved 'prince' has. a man who beats his women, rapes her, makes his own daughter sleep on the floor, talks about foreigners and jews like they are lower forms of life, and kidnaps 2 kids just to screw their mothers life, not because he suddenly wanted to be a good father. When he had his kids with him, he didn't give a fuck about them.


i wish ms gillespie all the best and i admire her strenght, to live a life like that and fight for her children!

J@Zz said...

The thing about differing viewpoints are that that are too many views by too many people.
I was surprised that Miss Jacqueline did not even offer proof of her being beaten or abused.Surely there are scars on the body or proof of injury.
The fact that the family let her take the children out to visit her allegedly dying grandmother is proof that she's not kept like in chains or something.
I've got a copy of the court hearing and others.It looks like a well planned scheme to me.
As to her consistently brought a Quran to court and swear upon it is kind of absurd. She's willing to carry the Quran to court.Proof that she does willingly to appear as a muslim.AHa.
There's simply too many loopholes in the story. I've heard someone said that the book (Once I was a Princess)sounds 100% real.Well delusional people living in their own dreams can make it feel real too.
I was puzzled, why it took him 7 years to take his children out.If her story is true, he(Raja Bahrin) is the cousin of the current Sultan and described as all powerful,he could charter a private plane out of a private airfield to spirit his children away soonest possible.Even sending out kidnapping team is not a problem.
There's that i suppose.

J@Zz said...

The thing about differing viewpoints are that that are too many views by too many people.
I was surprised that Miss Jacqueline did not even offer proof of her being beaten or abused.Surely there are scars on the body or proof of injury.
The fact that the family let her take the children out to visit her allegedly dying grandmother is proof that she's not kept like in chains or something.
I've got a copy of the court hearing and others.It looks like a well planned scheme to me.
As to her consistently brought a Quran to court and swear upon it is kind of absurd. She's willing to carry the Quran to court.Proof that she does willingly to appear as a muslim.AHa.
There's simply too many loopholes in the story. I've heard someone said that the book (Once I was a Princess)sounds 100% real.Well delusional people living in their own dreams can make it feel real too.
I was puzzled, why it took him 7 years to take his children out.If her story is true, he(Raja Bahrin) is the cousin of the current Sultan and described as all powerful,he could charter a private plane out of a private airfield to spirit his children away soonest possible.Even sending out kidnapping team is not a problem.
There's that i suppose.

Anonymous said...

See a copy of the court hearing from the Australian Family Court to know the truth.
Either Jacqueline Pascarl or her ex-husband, Raja Kamarul Bahrin Shah.


There are many versions of this story.